The Differentiator

How do you know the moment a client decides whether they actually trust you?

That moment happens in a conversation, not a workflow. It happens when you acknowledge uncertainty instead of projecting false confidence. When you listen past the stated problem to the one they haven’t named yet. When you show up as a person, not a process. No AI tool accelerates that. In fact, the firms leaning hardest into automation risk eroding the judgment they can rely on and a relationship they can count on.

The capability we need to deliberately focus on and improve is trust-building as a practiced skill. Not a personality trait. Not an afterthought behind certifications and technical depth. A discipline. One that can be taught, developed, and measured by the quality of your client relationships and the durability of your reputation.

What the industry needs to get right in this AI-forward landscape is the framework for who we are as humans in an agentic world, not just what we can do faster. That means investing in communication, emotional intelligence, and the kind of credibility that comes from being honest when the answer is hard.

We are at a pivot point where anyone can learn how to wield the tools (the agents, the headless frameworks, the builders).

The way we show up as humans and prove to our prospects, clients, and coworkers that our value is in the advice, guidance and trust we can bring to the table is how we differentiate ourselves.

How do you show up? What is your differentiator?

Check out my presentation at Dreamforce on Building Confidence & Credibility for Career Success!

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Become Indispensable: Connecting Dots

I’m always fascinated about how the brain works. I’ve always been pretty analytical and love to connect dots. Puzzle games like Sudoku and Tangled Rope suck me in as I compute my next moves and look to understand the landscape and solve the problems.

That naturally lends to an affinity for solution architecture. Hearing the challenges, looking into the connections, computing the inputs and outputs and developing solutions all involve these skills.

Sometimes I can almost feel the visual I’m sharing here – I can feel my brain working like this – filing pieces of information away, making computations, looking at patterns.
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While this is a fabulous skill that’s necessary when working through requirements or designing solutions. It goes hand in hand with the ability to talk to people. To be able to ask the right questions. To be able to simplify information to make it relatable and understandable. To be able to continue to circle back to the right topics and avoid rabbit trails or trying to boil oceans.

Don’t neglect developing and continuing to work on these soft skills. There are so many awesome new technology advances that it’s easy to focus on the hard technical skills, but it can’t be an ‘either/or’ – it has to be an ‘and’ – a great solution architect has both technical skills AND people skills.

If you’ve been reading my posts for a while you’ve probably seen a theme around soft skills, building trust and how these are critical in the age of AI – it’s definitely a passion of mine.

Do you have a good mix of hard/soft skills? How often do you do targeting training on your soft skills? Not sure where to start? Let me know and I can point to some great resources!

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Become Indispensable: Using AI Tools

View imageWe’ve all developed our own voice. Our own sound that is distinct to us. Our favorite artists are the ones we can name just by hearing their music or their voice reading a book (e.g. Morgan Freeman).

In our interactions with people, in person or online, we have mannerisms we’ve developed. Could be something in our phrasing, or our gesticulating or our practiced pauses. Could be something in all the exclamation points I tend to use or (as a gen-x-er) in the ellipses I include in my emails. Might even just be a tone of casualness or formality.

If you look back through my posts you can tell my voice pretty clearly. It is authentic.

So when we are using AI tools like ChatGPT or Claude to help us craft messages, email responses, materials, etc. we have to be doubly careful to not lose our own voice. If we all just copy/paste what it spits out at us, we will all begin to sound like automatons!

It is our human-ness that builds trust with other people. And when we lose our own voice and human-ness to AI that trust becomes eroded. They can tell it doesn’t sound like me and then they begin to wonder if it was me responding. Or just get a sense that something is ‘off’ – whether or not the words are good.

So a word of caution as we use these tools. Don’t lose your voice in the process. Use them to help give you ideas/answers/bullets, etc. But put it in your own words and voice when you turn around and hand it over to someone who trusts you. Then they can be assured it really came from you. And you can be assured that you read it all and it’s what you actually intended to say in the first place.

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Become Indispensable: Online Meetings in the age of AI!

We’ve had meeting transcription for a while, but with the advent of AI tools in our virtual meetings, I’ve changed the way I lead and talk through my meetings a bit.
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Meeting Outcomes: I want to be sure when I get the AI Summary and action items that I am getting the important items I choose – not the things that AI has decided is important (or hallucinated).

So now I use very deliberate terms/phrases:

* To restate: the current requirement is to ‘XYZ’, correct?
* We have some options we’ve discussed for solutions including 1-2-3
* The pain points I am hearing are <restates pain points>
* Action items include <action item> for <person> due <date>
* Next steps are <insert next steps here>

When I use these – I get better results with the AI Summary. It also helps to format things so that I can pull out things in a nice orderly fashion – I can quickly get to the requirements or action items when I need them.

When you don’t do this – you risk the AI tool coming up with their own requirements and solutions and action items based on things others are saying. Which might or might not be accurate. This keeps ME in the driver’s seat of the outcomes!

What are you doing differently in online meetings to assist the AI tool?

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Building Credibility: Interpretation

When I graduated High School I wanted to be an interpreter. And while I didn’t end up working for the UN, I think in my current role, the art of interpretation is immensely important!

One of the things I’ve learned over the years is that even when we’re all speaking the same language, we’re often not speaking the same language.

Especially when it comes to gathering requirements for a new solution or tool or process. Often, what the end user needs & what we hear are often on completely different planes of existence.

View imageAnd as Architect/Consultant/Admin/Business Analyst it is our job to try to draw out the consistencies & translate so we are on the same playing field. To poke holes in the requirements, not in an attempt to pop them, but in an attempt to get them down to their most basic.

When a user says ‘automatically’ you can’t always assume this means an automation is required. It could be that they have no concept of what automation can mean in a tool they don’t know. They are using a term to describe that it needs to be easy, user friendly. Not because they need an automation. (We all know what making assumptions does…)

It’s on US to poke at things. To unravel the language barriers & understand the REAL requirements. Sometimes if you step back from the words themselves and put yourself in their shoes, the words sound different. Say ‘show me’ a lot – let them demonstrate how it is now, what they ‘don’t’ want it to do. Peel back the layers.

Learn to be a great interpreter.

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